The world is a big place, and sometimes this makes it terrifying. Some days, it can all get a little bit too much, and yet the media and social media tell us that no matter what we do, we should be smiling and happy. Do you know what though? It’s okay not to be okay. Sometimes, you just need that duvet day away from work. You need to say no to the rat race, shut the door and snuggle down in bed and binge watch a box set. It’s okay to not be okay – because tomorrow is a day for you to stop feeling overwhelmed by the world and get back up again.
Here’s the thing, we’re all busy. From the moment we wake up until the moment that we go to bed, life just doesn’t stop. Everyone everywhere wants a piece of you for something. Bosses pull at you for deadlines to be met. Colleagues demand the latest Instagram likes and the need to impress them with your weekend shenanigans is almost a compulsion. Family and friends demand your time. It’s overwhelming, because trying to find a moment in all that for a little self-care and just to breathe is impossible. When things get really tough, words like ‘depression’ and ‘anxiety’ get thrown around and it’s the difference between being able to get out of bed after your duvet day or not that can make you wonder whether you are dealing with something a little more than feeling overwhelmed.
Sitting down and making a list of what makes you happy and what is affecting your life right now can really help you to determine whether you need to do more than just take care of yourself. A detailed description of facilities that can give you more than a little bit of a break can give you the help to make the decision on whether you are truly okay. Even if you’re not, it’s okay to stand up and say so. It’s okay to ask for help.
It’s okay to not be okay, because putting on a facade and being fake about your feelings can be even more suffocating. You won’t be doing anyone any favors if you lie to yourself and say there isn’t a problem if there is one. Your health – both physical and mental – are important. Choosing you is important and you have to choose yourself every single day when you are struggling to get out of bed. You have to choose to stand up and seek an outlet that makes sense.
Your outlet for your emotions can be absolutely anything that you want it to be. Meditation, yoga, hard exercise, reading – you name it, you can do it. On the low days, where you don’t feel up to much, choose something off the list of self-care items that you have written on your list and practice it. It’s okay not to feel okay, but if not feeling okay is ruining your life or making you press pause on happiness, then you need to be okay with asking for help.